Family photo day is one of those things that sounds dreamy in your head but when kids are involved, the idea can also bring a little stress. Will they cooperate? Will anyone smile at the same time? Will the toddler really have a meltdown 5 minutes in?
The good news? With a little prep and the right mindset, family photos with kids can be a fun and memorable experience for everyone (yes, really!). Here are my best tips to help you prep your kids (and yourself) for a relaxed and joyful session.
1. Talk About It Ahead of Time
Let your kids know what’s coming. Describe the session like an adventure, not a chore. Keep it light:
“We’re going to play in the park with a photographer who’s going to take some pictures of us having fun!”
When kids know what to expect, they’re more likely to feel comfortable and excited instead of caught off guard.
2. Pick the Right Time
Little ones are happiest when they’re well-fed and well-rested. Avoid nap time or late evenings if you know that’s their grumpy zone. Most photographers (myself included!) are happy to work around your family’s best time of day, just ask!
3. Dress Them Comfortably
Yes, you want cute outfits. But comfort is key. Avoid anything itchy, stiff, or that they’re constantly adjusting. If your child is uncomfortable in what they’re wearing, it’ll show in their body language and expressions.
Tip: Let toddlers wear their outfit a few times before photo day to get used to it!
4. Bring Snacks (and Maybe a Bribe)
We all get a little happier with snacks, right? Pack some mess-free treats like mini marshmallows or fruit snacks. Small rewards can go a long way toward cooperation, but save them as your secret weapon, not a pre-session promise.
5. Let Go of Perfection
Kids will be kids. They might wiggle, pout, giggle, or refuse to look at the camera and that’s okay. The best photos often come from unposed, real moments. Instead of aiming for perfect smiles, focus on connection, playfulness, and being present with your kids.
6. Give Necessary Information to Your Photographer
If your child has special needs, a sensory processing disorder, or developmental or cognitive delays, please share this information with your photographer a few days before your session. The more specific you can be, the better I can prepare to ensure a comfortable and positive experience for your child.
For example, if your child takes instructions literally, a playful phrase like “Don’t smile!”, often used to get a giggle, might not work as intended. Letting me know ahead of time helps me communicate in a way that makes sense to your child.
If your child tends to get overwhelmed by high energy or busy environments, knowing that allows me to keep things calm, quiet, and relaxed during your session.
It’s also helpful to be aware of any unique family dynamics. For instance, if Mason’s stepdad is named Ben and Mason calls him by his first name instead of “Dad,” sharing that detail helps me give directions that are clear and comfortable for everyone. I want to avoid awkward moments and create a space that feels respectful and inclusive.
My priority is to make your session as smooth and enjoyable as possible, for every member of your family.
7. Trust Your Photographer
As a photographer, I’ve seen it all, meltdowns, shy kiddos, camera-hogs, you name it. It’s all part of the magic. I’ll guide you through the session, help your kids warm up, and capture the in-between moments that make your family unique. You don’t have to “make” anything happen, we’ll create beautiful images together, whatever the day brings.
Final Thoughts
Preparing your kids for family photos doesn’t have to be stressful. With a little planning and a lot of grace, you can walk away with photos that tell the real, beautiful story of your family, right now, just as you are.
Want more tips or have questions about your upcoming session? I’m always here to help!
